January 2010
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A New Year's Eve Love Story
I’m love-struck by this story, by my favorite Hermosa Beach gal, about how her parents met. Just had to reblog it and wish all of you a magical New Year’s Eve …
iloveandhateyouhermosabeach:
It Started Here.
New Years Day 1980, my parents met right here in San Juan, Puerto Rico. My dad was originally from France but lived in New York the majority of his life. My mom is Puerto...
December 2009
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“I met him in Rome and I fell for him like the proverbial ton of bricks. He was a...”
– Sandra Dee (via dreamlovers)
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Blessed to be Bumped
I’ve never bought a lottery ticket. I’ve never played a slot machine. I don’t know how to play poker. I’m not a gambling woman, so I find it strange that insurance companies ask me to bet on the odds of my life tragedies when choosing a policy. For instance, my husband and I bet on the fact that if an uninsured motorist hit us we would be able to pay a $1,000 deductible.
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Seventeen X-mases
Written for The 12 Hates of Christmas series. Please check out this piece and the other 11 Hates of Christmas on The Gospel According to Hate. (Reblogged here for the purpose of maintaining the Secrets Archive.)
My grandma used to say, “You were the apple of your daddy’s eye.” I have one picture where I can see what she meant. I’m four, in a red and white frilly dress with thick white tights...
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“I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does...”
– Maya Angelou (via thechocolatebrigade) (via crannybananny) (via darling-eliza22)
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Have a Happy, Happy Christmas!
Wishing you a painless day of abundant joy …
And if it’s not, well, there’s always 364 more days to try to avoid bad outfits, bad behavior, stupid moves, and dirty words although I think that’s why life is so much funny. Merry Christmas, everyone!
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“Harry Reis, a professor of psychology at the University of Rochester, likens our...”
– Elizabeth Weil, from “Married (Happily) With Issues”
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Behind The Times, Literally: Part II
Continuing from yesterday, I’m randomly examining all of my favorite parts of Elizabeth Weil’s article in The New York Times called, “Married (Happily) With Issues.” Tell me what you think or what struck you about the article, and together maybe we’ll figure out the full impact of this amazing force of marital honesty …
“I thought I had avoided becoming...
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Poll: Would You Wear Carrie's Rock?
Carrie Underwood announced her engagement to Ottawa Senators (hockey, I had to look it up) player Mike Fisher this week and is showing off one incredible ring. Incredible because it is so big that it looks like a small planet—possibly a 12 carat planet. I’d knock out small children while walking down the street with that ring, but some women like ‘em big. So I have to ask...
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Behind The Times, Literally: Part I
A few of you forwarded me the link to Elizabeth Weil’s article in The New York Times called, “Married (Happily) With Issues.” I agree, it’s outstanding. The article appeared in the December 6th issue, so why am I only writing about it now?
Honestly, she was so brave and packed so much in that I’m still trying to wrap my mind around it all. I don’t even know...
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“We are not the same persons this year as last; nor are those we love. It is a...”
– William Somerset Maugham (via an AMAZING blog that makes me very jealous. I take great pride in the asthetic of my blog but this one blew me away …misswallflower)
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Holiday Dread
Click your choice in red to see the results tabulated in our journal below.
Poll: Biggest holiday anxiety?
Seeing relatives
Making food
Giving presents
Getting presents
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In Remembrance of Brittany Murphy
“As far as having a New Year’s resolution, I’d love to have a child next year. But that’s kind of a large one! I’ve been very blessed to have a really great loving husband. I spend more time with my family than anyone else in the world.”
- Brittany Murphy said on December 3rd. The actress died yesterday at the age of 32.
If this doesn’t put the holidays into perspective I...
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A Transatlantic Love Story, Part II: Two Real Life...
Continued from A Transatlantic Love Story, Part I …
I’d barely been out of my own state before, but there I was in another country. I could go back to my journals and give you the sweeping details of finding freedom for the first time in my life, but I really only have one memory, written on a heart-shaped postcard, and mailed back home to my mom and step-dad:
I’m standing on...
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Holiday Happiness is . . .
This morning I had coffee with The Film Director’s Wife. I chose a skirt and sweater set specifically to meet her at the fanciest coffee place we could think of between our two houses. To my delight, she had chosen a skirt and sweater ensemble, too.
Within minutes we confessed that we were wearing skirts because the past week had provided us with time to, finally, shave our legs. Three...
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“Anyone can be passionate but it takes real lovers to be silly.”
– Rose Franken (retweeted from Student_of_Love)
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To Be Embarrassed
Okay, here goes. My favorite little Hermosa Beach gal revealed her most embarrassing thing in To Be Ashamed and, in the spirit of whispering, I’m going to be brave enough to share mine. Secret Twenty-Three, Revealed. I think I am growing a goatee.
About two months ago the tiny hairs on my chin decided to grow half a micro-millimeter longer. At first I thought that the light in my bathroom...
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When Facebook ruins your life . . . →
One more reason to vent here, where you’re anonymous, than on Facebook where you’re probably not. The Huffington Post published a series of screenshots that were just so funny that I couldn’t resist passing on the link. Click the title in red above to escape the mundanity of the typing pool for at least ten minutes of laughs. Enjoy!
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Guest Post: The Precious by WifeWithAWife
Hello, WifeWithAWife here, also known as The Film Director’s Wife. I am pleased as spiked fruit punch to be guest-blogging at my favorite virtual ladies night.
It’s a Hollywood cliché. A good looking man of a certain age walks into a crowded party filled with beautiful women in backless dresses, we cut to a shot of his strong left hand; he pulls off his wedding ring and slips it into his...
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The Kid Question
Recently the Filmmaker’s Wife and I were talking about children and houses. She said, “I don’t understand it. [The Filmmaker] and I are in the same age group as most of the other married people we know. We’re recently married, but we don’t have a lot of tension about when we’re going to have kids. Why is it that it seems like people our own age who have been...
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The Deleted Post
**This is the post mentioned in To Be Ashamed, reproduced here with my arrogant comparison and all. At the urging of Mrs. Pierce and Kathleen, I decided that it feels important to be authentically myself as much as possible, even if you think me hideously full of myself. So here goes …
I was at the gym yesterday when this woman got on the cross-trainer next to me, staring right at me for...
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Wouldn't It Be Nice
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The fear, my friend says, is that everyone in the supermarket is staring at her, thinking she is pathetic for buying food for only one person.
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My husband and I drive to Trader Joe’s on a Sunday morning just before it opens. The parking lot is populated with single women—women on their own—in their 60s, sitting, waiting. In a minivan a woman has her head turned toward the entrance, her arm...
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To Be Ashamed
If you checked this page within the last forty minutes, you read an article that is now not here. My husband read it, I felt embarrassed, and in haste I deleted it. I deleted it from here, Facebook, and Twitter. I didn’t want you to read it and think that I should be ashamed of myself. It’s as gone as these online things can be, but the embarrassment is still here.
I read recently...
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News Flash: Whispered Between Women Voted One of...
Thanks to everyone who voted in The Marry Blogger’s competition for the Top Ten Marriage Blogs of 2009. We’re on it!!! You can check out the other finalists on TheMarryBlogger.com.
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“My hope was that he would wake up from whatever he was in the throes of and see...”
– Jenny Sanford, former wife of South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford,
on the six months that have past since he announced his year-long affair
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Natural Beauty, yep, natural, uh huh, totally...
Ladies, I’ve been keeping a big secret from you. In fact, I’ve been keeping it from everyone. It’s not fair to hide it because the secret was passed onto me by a trusted friend. Secret Nineteen, Revealed.The Cargo Blu-Ray Collection.
Nope, it’s not a pack of DVDs. It’s makeup. Makeup that actually makes you look like a natural born movie star. I’m not kidding. The trusted friend was the...
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Battle of the Sexes
My husband thinks that most women wear matching bra and panties everyday. I say that’s in his dreams—most women only match on special occasions. This poll is to see who’s right …
Click on your choice in red to see the results tabulated in our journal below.
Poll: Matching bra and panties?
Everyday
Special Occasions
Never
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The Great Divide
Babies. Everybody’s talking about them or having them recently. A lot of perfectly sensible married people have had babies this year in the middle of the worst recession we’ve seen in decades. There were eight in my office. A friend told me there were seven in hers. It’s great to know that so many people are turning to their spouses for comfort in such trying times, but so many...
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Cowlick
Last night I rolled over, throwing my arms around my husband and shoving my nose into his cowlick. I’m not sure why, but I could accidentally crunch that cowlick into my face a thousand times over and every single time I would love it.
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An Answer to "Making It" and Another Question
Mrs. Pierce answered one of my burning questions, the one I discussed in “Making It,” which is the mystery of why Hilary Swank and Chad Lowe got divorced. It turns out Hilary said exactly why in a Vanity Fair article by Leslie Bennetts called The Lady’s on a Roll in August of 2006. Where was I? Living in a hole, apparently, because there was a pretty public reason why their...
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Poll: Va-jay-jay maintenance?
Let her do what she wants to do
Shave her in the shower
Wax her in the bathroom
Trust her to professionals
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Don't you just love science?
According to a UCLA study on women and friendship, when women are stressed, they experience a surge of oxytocin, the “bonding” hormone. It’s the same hormone secreted when we are connecting with our babies. This hormone encourages us to “tend and befriend,” which produces more oxytocin, a cycle that ultimately has a calming effect. Interestingly the effect does not...
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Heidi Klum Changed Her Name
While you and I were running around doing the last of our Thanksgiving shopping, Heidi Klum was changing her name. Check out this blurb, taken from Sheri & Bob’s Marriage Blog:
Recently Heidi Klum legally changed her name. The comment that bothers me is “The bond between Heidi Klum and husband Seal just got a little closer. On Friday, a Los Angeles commissioner approved...
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“It’s disheartening to pray, month after month, ‘God, if there is a child...”
– Kathleen of Project M
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