Okay, so. Remember that thing that I didn’t want to tell my husband? Specifically what I did was mention our sex life in an article I wrote and sent it out to a national magazine before checking with him that it was okay.

Ouch.

And the reason that I’ve been waiting to tell him I did that is because I wanted him to read the article first (printed out from our computer in the privacy of our home) so that I could gauge how embarrassing it might be to him before I fessed up to sending it out without spousal permission.

Now.

He’s had it for like three weeks and still hasn’t read it. He can see that the title is Sex, Veggies, and the Art of Weight Loss. He knows that I’m certainly not writing about sex with anyone else and he knows that my writer’s group has already read the piece. But he hasn’t found time to read it. I find that a very good sign.

Also.

The magazine I sent it to pretty clearly doesn’t want it. I sent it a month ago, have followed up, and they haven’t contacted me. So actually, only my writer’s group has read it, which my husband *I think* is okay with.

Here’s the thing.

The article doesn’t talk about our sex life. It’s about as vague as just saying that I have sex with my husband. The article is more about my weight, but in the past my husband has been understandably sensitive about me writing about him. The only way I got to keep the blog was by remaining anonymous and sort of having a truce that he wouldn’t read it. It’s the best way for me to get better at writing for an audience and you, friends, help me do that by visiting, commenting, and liking the posts that you like. (Thank you!) My husband understands that and tries to forget that I have a blog, which is A-OK with me.

But.

My husband hasn’t put aside all of my articles. I gave him three, all three have him in it though none are about him. He’s been helping me on one of those stories and has been incredibly detached (one of the few times that being detached is healthy in a marriage) and mature about the way I’ve portrayed our marriage and our life. And … his feedback has been really helpful. He spotted things that my writer’s group were either too shy to point out or didn’t see because they’re not as familiar with the subject matter (my life, haha). He’s read two drafts of the other story and has helped it become so much more than what it was when I originally wrote it.

So.

What I’m trying to say is that I think my husband is pretty awesome and it did work out all right in the end. Unless he totally flips when he reads that other article but I have faith that, if he does, he’ll give me feedback for making it a lot better than I could have on my own. Win-win in the world of marriage.